This post is as much a story as it is a guide. I hope it proves helpful!
One thing that I love is precum. It tastes sweet, it’s slick, it lubricates so well, and it feels a bit nasty. My sex organ is literally leaking in from arousal.
But I talk with some guys, and they say “I don’t produce much precum”.
I’ve noticed a pattern though: They allow themselves to ejaculate often. They might not even have discovered edging either!
Step 1: Reduce ejaculation frequency
Develop a plan to reduce how often you ejaculate. When I was younger, it would have seemed insane to not ejaculate once or twice a day, at a minimum. I thought I would go insane.
However, start slow. Do not go cold turkey. That never works.
Develop a plan like:
- Week 1: You can cum every day, but only after at least 1 hour of edging.
- Week 2: You can cum every other day. You should still edge on the days you don’t cum too. It will be frustrating, but just trust me on this and don’t do it.
- Week 3: Repeat week 2, but reduce it to only cumming 3 times that week.
- Week 4: Bring it down to twice a week. Stay edging each day.
- Week 5: Once a week. Make it a time when you have edged for many hours prior, it will feel wonderful.
At this time, you can basically not cum at all and likely handle it OK. Going a week takes a lot of determination.
Step 2: Learn to squeeze out precum
Do not use lubricant while you’re masturbating. At least not synthetic. A little bit of saliva should be all you use.
Since you’re a beta, of course you will only masturbate by rubbing against the underside of your penis with a couple of fingers. Once precum starts being produced from the tip, wipe it up and use it to rub with. It lasts a lot longer than saliva anyway, and feels great.
I have also found the follow helps to get more precum out:
- If you don’t already, learn how to wrap your hand around your penis, and tighten with your little fingers, then tighten the other fingers up your cock. This will squeeze any precum up the urethra and out of the head of your penis.
- Press hard against your prostate. I do this by placing my fist against my prenium (the area between your balls & arsehole) and pushing hard on it. This helps force precum out into your urethra and closer to your cock. You can then sometimes do the hand squeeze up your cock (above) to get more out.
Step 3: Edge properly
I’ve seen many betas think that edging is just a very slow long wank. It’s not. It’s about getting very close to ejaculating and then stopping, losing your edge and then repeating it. Surprisingly, this seems to escape some folks who “edge”.
Here’s some tips to do it properly:
- Have something to do when you need to lose the edge. This is a big one. Most betas think they will just stop touching, but leave their porn going. That’s too much of a risk. Personally, I play a slow paced computer game on another screen while in ‘cool down’. It’s fun, but keeps me distracted away from my cock long enough to lose my edge.
- An hour is not enough. Seriously. It can be difficult, but find some 4-8 hour opportunities to edge. You’ll likely get to the edge 10-20 times in that window, but it’s a huge euphoria hit and helps you really master the skill.
- Be clear when you will ejaculate. Many plan to end an edging session with ejaculation. That’s a bad idea, and should be controlled. I personally am not of the view that you should NEVER cum, but plan when you will and ensure it’s only once a week or less. You do not want to associate edging with ejaculation.
Step 4: Make it part of every day
It may not be full on edging, because you can’t touch your penis, but it’s possible to be leaking precum when at work, or out at an event, etc. The more you deny yourself full ejaculation, and enjoy riding the mental head space of arousal, the more you will be able to leak pre-cum just from arousal and no stimulation.
Step 5: What to expect
I’ve followed most of this process for around two years now. Here’s my outcomes:
- I produce a lot of precum. A lot more than I used to before I started this regime. So much so that it often now soaks through my underwear and trousers. I need to be careful at times that I have not leaked through when in public.
- I can almost control my precum production at will. I’m hoping to get better at this, but I can just look at a picture and without touching myself I can feel the wet sensation in my underwear of precum leaking from the tip of my penis.
- I can produce precum without being erect. This was pretty cool, and developed about a year in. I can be leaking precum while not fully at attention.
- At my best estimate, I now produce about 4oz of precum every day. I’d like to get it up even more.
I highly encourage all betas to go deeper and master their ability to leak. It’s the sign of the beta that their penis is always being denied what it really wants, and you leak a slime trail – a physical manifestation of your loser state.