In their relationships with one another, men are hierarchical. They insist upon levels of status and power. There cannot be a general without a private, nor can there be a king without a peasant. Not only does every thing have, and belong to, its properly appointed place, but every man (and woman) does as well.
I guess you could say I have been lucky. I have always lived near an adult bookstore with glory hole booths in the back. As often as not, when I visit one, I am disappointed. It seems that most of the guys who go there are there for the same reason I am; to suck